25 Things I Wish I Knew

Aging is usually considered negative, and most people fear it or try to avoid it. It’s not something you look forward to or embrace. But there are so many great features associated with growing older. Every day I usually find myself saying, “If I’d only known that at 20” or “I wish I had realized that truth in my 30’s.” I find I appreciate life and all the little parts that synchronize to form my days. I sat to reflect and jotted down 25 things I wish I would have known when I was younger.  

1. You can’t take back words.
2. Live in the moment. Stop waiting for the big moments and enjoy all of the little ones.
3. It’s okay to ask for help.
4. Comparison will always make you feel bad.
5. It’s okay to say no.
6. Don’t worry about what people think of you. Most of them aren’t even thinking about you.
7. Wear the retainer. The orthodontist was right.
8. Stop at the history markers along the roadside.
9. Choose your battles. Not everything is worth fighting for.
10. There never is a right moment or time. You have to just take the first step.
11. If you let people take advantage, they will.
12. Use sunscreen. You’ll be glad you did.
13. Taking care of yourself is so important.
14. Most things don’t turn out how you plan.
15. The only person holding you back is you.
16. You’ll find yourself saying things you heard from your parents and grandparents—even though you promised you wouldn’t.
17. Complaining doesn’t help one little bit.
18. People will disappoint you.
19. Always stop and play with the children even if you’re busy. 
20. Don’t put unreachable expectations on others. Most people are doing the best they can.
21. It’s okay to let go and walk away.
22. Follow your gut instincts even if it’s scary.
23. Most things I stress about won’t matter.
24. Change is inevitable. 
25. Sometimes things happen for a reason. You will understand some day.

Some wisdom only comes through maturation. But whatever age or stage of your life, understand that you are enough and tomorrow is a new day. Grab the reins, tuck a few of my tidbits in your saddle bag, and move forward with what’s important. One of my favorite lines from a movie was spoken by Auntie Mame, “Life is a banquet and most people are starving to death.” Grab a fork and dig in.

About Shelley Pulliam

Howdy! (A girl from Oklahoma has to use this as her greeting) I’m Shelley Pulliam, executive director of Arise Ministries and former teacher of hormone-filled 8th graders. But my real claim to fame rests in my award as second grade spelling bee champ and my recent gun-handling skills as I train to competition shoot. It helps me be on guard when Satan comes knocking. I’m a voracious reader and can frequently be found at the theater enjoying movie marathons where my record stands at six in one day. I’m a single, never married, who loves to pour into children at every opportunity. Let me know if you have any for sale.